Negative Thoughts (Ruminating)
When a pain event occurs the common and natural reaction is to immediately entertain negative thoughts. The negative thoughts call up strong, harsh, and hard to control emotions. Negative thoughts are the jet fuel that feeds the emotion of anger. Anger and pain events will begin to subside in thirty seconds or less unless fed by negative thoughts. How we take control of our thoughts has everything to do with the way we will react to the event.
Ruminating is the step that immediately follows the pain event in the behavior cycle. It’s where the training to remove emotional pain really pays off. Instead of negative thoughts that call up emotions that are hard to control, the trained pain processer applies positive thoughts, in all humility, and the result is very effective. Pain processers are able to take control of their thoughts and therefore take control of the effects of the event.
Pain Carriers invest large amounts of thought time in negative thoughts surrounding an unpleasant event. Pain carriers blame others for making them mad when in reality the pain carrier is the only one who can call up the emotion of anger. No one can make us mad except ourselves. We make ourselves angry and upset by our own negative thoughts brought on by well entrenched flawed thinking.
Negative thoughts bring about sleepless nights, twisted sheets, bent brows, bad moods, depression and stress. It is enough to turn a good hearted person into a critical grump who is consumed with condemnation and escape behaviors. It is robbery in slow motion, and, it is cruel. No wonder it is so frequently used by Satan.
Setting the mind on things above, thinking about good things, humility and a positive attitude are all excellent means for preventing ruminating.
"When I lived my life as a pain carrier my mind was filled with racing negative thoughts and especially so at night. I could not sleep; I would twist sheets all night long. The next day I would get up in a dark and angry mood, already mad at the world. It took all I could do to maintain the charade of my double life. It took greater and greater efforts to cover up the real me. Thank God for the training to remove the curse of emotional pain."
Ron Wilkins
Removing Emotional Pain |